Daredevils

Late August, just before school resumed, everyone went to the Finney County Fair.
Beyond comparing tan lines and crop tops, eating cotton candy and flirting with the boys, lay another sinister  dimension.
This dimension was ruled by the daredevils.
Those who relished the thought of being strapped down in a wire mesh "squirrel cage" attached to machinery assembled by a not-so-wholesome-looking, middle-aged carnie, and tossed about willy-nilly in front of the entire town while tampons flew out of their purses, and their hair was scrambled into knots.  Some of them even puked.
I hated the daredevils.
Because I was, by comparison, a chicken.

The kind of anxiety provoked by a carnival thrill ride was precisely what my brain had been programmed in utero to avoid.
Still, that day arrived during the summer between 8th and 9th grade when I knew it was time.
I didn't mess with the Scrambler or Tilt-a-Whirl.
I signed on for The Bullet.
You know the one.  A rotating cylinder on either end of a towering torture device.
Guaranteed to stop for awhile as you hang suspended from the top,  upside down, naturally.
Hell on earth.

So I did it.  And it was bad, but not that bad.  Not like I'd imagined.
Lots of screaming.  Lots of shrieking.  Some laughing.  Rather exhilarating in a perverse way.
When it was over, well, I had that great Forrest Gump feeling of "One Less Thing."  And I remember thinking, "So NOW I'm COOL?"
Damn.  That was easy.

Cm' on.  Let's get more cotton candy.

Ready or Not

Ready or Not, Here I Come!

Amazing, isn’t it, how children’s games, played with a light heart, are about practicing for the pith of life?

Cover your eyes.  Count to a hundred.  Don’t peek!

When you look out again, everything will have changed.  And, it is your job to muster the courage to peer around corners, under bushes, and behind the shed to find everybody again.  To chase them home, and tag someone else.  Because it wouldn’t be fair to always be the one facing the unknown.

So we practice and we play.  Sometimes instigating the startle.  Sometimes receiving it.  But, over and over, getting the hang of the game.  And getting a few rules under our belts.  1.)  Play fair.  2.)  Don’t scare yourself to death with your own fantasies.  3.)  Dig deep for courage.

The reward?  We’re part of it, of course.  The game.  The world.  This wild, unmanageable, sometimes dull, sometimes terrifying event called Life.  Not only are we each part of it.  We’re each instrumental.  No one knows how to do my part but me.  No one could possibly do your part but you.

This photo of autumn seed pods against the sparkling late summer leaves demonstrates what is about to blur and what is coming into sharp focus.  Indian Summer.  Harbinger of Autumn.  Time to run and play until dark.  Time to gather courage for whatever is next.

Oh, and remember to have fun.  If you dare.

Mountain Mama

Years and years and eons ago, when I was finding my way back from the shadowland of cancer, I made myself a promise.  If I get through this, I'm going to the mountains.  Which, I did.  

I traveled alone by car on a pilgrimage to the town of my birth, then the town of my youth, then to my spiritual home, up in the bosom of the Rockies.  

There, I felt the terror which had taken up residence in my spirit loosen its grip.  And the whispers of pine boughs proved more compelling than the ghost voices my mind was conjuring.  The high, clean scent of pine needles releasing their essence cleared my nose of its memory of hospital stench.

I spent hours hiking.  And even more hours sitting next to icy streams, dipping in up to my ankles until my bones ached cold with fresh life.  The fear, shame, grasping, loathing, horror of it all found its place.  And it's place, among the mountains, wildflowers, streams and clouds, was utterly infinitesimal.  As am I.   Nothing was more comforting or more astonishingly beautiful.  

Today feels like a good day to give thanks.

So, thanks.

Jeannie

Settle In

I love the title of Ram Dass's latest film.  "Fierce Grace."  I listened to it as I lay on the floor of my loft one Sunday morning, my ear next to the internal speaker of my laptop.  Actually, that was the perfect way to hear him.   Occasionally, I propped up on my elbow to watch the images and enjoy those spirited blue eyes of his.  But, mostly, I listened.  I marinated in that voice, those words, the deliberate pace.

There is a joy in this man.  It has always been there, and no less today.  Drastically affected by his stroke, very much compromised in his physical capacities, he insists:  This is the most important teaching I've received.  I'm really learning.  I'm learning to settle in.

To this moment (smile).  And now this moment (smile again).  And this moment.

And, eyes twinkling, he tells me with absolute and utterly lighthearted conviction, it's okay.

What love lives at the root of this fierce grace.

Just Passing Through . . .

As a kid, family vacations were always, always, always (like it or not) an adventure.  No two could possibly be alike.  And taking one's chances was written into the deal.

It was before the age of franchise.  

Limited safety.  Little predictability.  Utter adventure.  And memories never to be rivaled.  

Growing bored beyond bored in the back seat of our big car lead me to creating intricate fantasy stories  of being a pop star (Cher, perhaps) on tour with her band.  Learning to tune out "the news" on the radio, along with Dad's cigarette smoke (even though the window was cracked) required a variety of strategies.

Stopping to eat was a lifesaver.  It meant a new place to explore.  The little roadside diners along the blue highways we traveled were as varied and unpredictable as America herself.

Can you imagine . . . not knowing what the menu (nor its ethnicity) would be?  Anything from German to Mexican to what I call Country.  Delicious?  Ummm . . . probably better than a 50-50 chance.  Worth it?  Oh, yeah.  Even the grumbling after a less than satisfactory roast beef sandwich was interesting to observe.  And, for a kid, there was almost always something good for dessert.  Big cookies, a milkshake, some whole new kind of pie.  

Arriving at the destination began another leg of the adventure.

Trolling the town from place to place, getting a feel for the motor inn (motel) from the look of the sign and all it promised.

The heart-sinking feeling of coming across what looked like the MOST fun place with the best pool in the nicest spot only to see the "NO" lighted up on the (NO) VACANCY neon sign.  Then, finally, Mom would spot us a good one.  Dad would agree, and we'd move in.

Again, one never knew quite what to expect  . . . in terms of decor, facilities, playgrounds, and so forth.  But, that was sort of the point of being away from home, actually.

I love all that.  Individuality.  Folks.  Little glimpses into other lives.  (Often the motel owners had their own little home attached to the office and I could see in and see their dog sitting on the couch.)  A funky bell would ring telling them someone had arrived.  They'd visit with mom and dad.  Wanting to hear about road conditions or wheat harvest.  It was cool.

Looking back, we were fearless.  We never even stayed in Holiday Inns (too expensive).  And, thank god for that.  We got the richer, realer, warmer version of America.  Of which we happened to be a part.  And, if we occasionally had to suffer the disappointment of a creaky bed or unheated pool, well, we sucked it up and looked forward to the next stopping place.

That's a pretty satisfying way to live if you ask me.

Square One

What to do when things fall apart?  Big things.  Put-my-whole-heart-in-it-and-it-went-kaplooey things.

Nobody knows.  Not really.

First, there's the flattening.  After a time, propping up on one knee.  Then, a sucker punch, for good measure.  Finally, on two feet.  Staggering about.  Disorientation.  And so forth.

But, here's the odd thing.  What seems to happen next is that I find myself willingly doing something as a complete beginner.  It may be quite tiny.  It may be in private.  And, it may not amount to a hill of beans in terms of a tangible achievement.  BUT -- it reconnects me to life.  Right where I am.  At square one.

Which is how I've come to dabble in watercolors.  I know nothing.  So, I come empty-handed and just experiment.  And sometimes the radio is on.  And there's a lovely glass of iced-tea.  And it may get very late before I realize I've spent a Saturday night absorbed in the process.  And that is the magic.  That is the healing.  That is the reassurance that life goes on. . .  with me, somehow, still in it.

After all, that's what my heart is being asked to do.  To just go on beating.  To start out empty.  To experience life the way it is now.  Makes sense that it would feel right to do it on the outside, too.

That is what I have today.  And, oddly, it's everything I need.

A New Viewpoint

The miraculous and amazing. That's what a new viewpoint can reveal.
Want to delve deeply into the soul of an experience?
Go spelunking into the cave of wonder and mystery lying just beneath
the surface of the ordinary?
Good! Then do it!
What better time to explore than right now -- when
budgets are pinched and time is precious?
Let's take this opportunity to slow down to the speed of life.
Heighten our senses to perceive the beauty that is.
Let's journey to the heart of heart of the moment
Now. In the space that is here.
Dare to discover the wildly
exotic, the deeply sacred in what we call "ordinary".
You might just fill up and spill over with gratitude.
It could happen. How do I know? 'Cause it happens to me.
And it feeds my soul.